Joyful Liberation

Joyful Liberation

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Stirring Emotions

Someone posted this in a preemie group I am in...I cannot tell you how many times I heard each and every one of these! I am venting today...too many people offering their great advice to me lately...normally I just smile and go about my own way. Also, Rowan's birthday is fast approaching and my nicu friends say it stirs up some pretty heavy emotions. Guess I'm in for it!


1. “You’re so lucky that you didn’t have to go through the end of pregnancy!”

2. “At least, with the baby in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit), you can get rest at night!”
3. “He’s so small!”
4. “When will he catch up?”
5. “What did you do, that he was born so early?”
6. “Everything happens for a reason.”
7. “Now that you have him home and off all that medical equipment, everything will be fine.”
8. “He’s how old? My child is the same age and twice his size.”
9. "With all those nurses around, you and your husband should just go out…you’ve got great babysitters"
10. "Is your baby going to make it?"
11. "When is your baby coming home?"
12. "Well, at least your baby is alive"

But I think my favorite was when I was literally dying in the hospital and a well meaning person says "oh, you don't want a preemie, they will be retarded"....gee thanks?

Not to mention everyone lecturing me on everything I was doing wrong and how I "made" myself have severe preeclampsia.
  •  "just eat a 20 lb turkey in 3 days and it will go away"
  • " just eat the brewers diet and it will go away"
  • " just take this vitamin, this supplement, this new found nutrient"
  •  "stop eating so much salt"
First of all, there is nothing I could have eaten or should not have eaten that would have changed what happened.  And for that matter, I was actually eating the brewers diet and taking an arsenal of vitamins, supplements, getting acupuncture, no caffeine, exercising and sleeping well.  Sometimes shit just happens people. Seriously. Pre-e sucks.  It nearly took my life, twice.  Sometimes you try to do all the "right" things and it just doesn't turn out like you had hoped. 

In the end, I think most people just don't know what to say. And, I think most people mean well and come from a place of love, at least that is how I choose to think.  Having severe pre-eclampsia and a 29 week preemie changed me forever. I cannot imagine my life without my little guy.

Oh and he is doing just great by the way. He is our little miracle in more ways than I can count.

 I guess emotions are stirring.  Lots of similarities to this time last year...last May, we were coming home from vacation in Mexico...we just got back from vacation in California...Willow's hamster, Cocoa, died while we were in Mexico...Willow's hamster, Max, (aka the zombie hamster) died a day after we got back from California... the weather is similar...I remember coming from hot,humid Mexico to a trip to Park City with the homeschoolers wearing coats and hats! It is freezing here today! It is all just timing but it is stirring some feelings in me...this time I am not pregnant though! And as far as I know, I am not dying from an autoimmune disease thank goodness.

I am thinking about all those mama's and daddy's in the NICU right now and I KNOW what they are going through.  It is war. It is NOT what you had planned. I am sending love and light.

I am choosing love and the fact that I get to celebrate my little man's 1st birthday here in a couple of weeks! Already planning his gluten free/dairy free "Elephant" Birthday cake and a trip to the zoo!  Our neighborhood has a fishing rodeo that morning that Willow is interested in going to so we may do that also. Too many fun things coming up I can hardly wait.


Monday, May 27, 2013

Manhattan Beach

 Just another amazing day at the beach...too bad we had to leave that evening.

Bye California...we love you so!

Santa Monica

So, we left San Diego and headed up to spend some time at the beach. But first we stopped for lunch at Dave and Busters.  Willow was in heaven.  She played games till her heart was content and we had some yummy food.
Checked in at the hotel and of course hit the pool first thing...
Then we headed to the Santa Monica Pier.  This is where we realized we forgot the camera :(...and as soon as David snapped a photo of where we were going to eat, my phone died...and so did his uuuggg
So we bought a cheap disposable camera and Willow had a blast taking  they are interesting....

Anyway, we got to the pier just as they were starting to close the rides.  Willow wanted to ride the roller coaster so bad so David asked one of the game workers if there was a way.  Well, she took pity on them and got the ride operator to let them ride twice and for free!  So sweet :)  What a fun place.  We will definitely go back on our next trip and take full advantage.  Josh was not only jealous of Dave and Busters (he loved going there when he was little) he wished he could have joined us at Bubba Gump's.  Forest Gump is one of his favorite movies :)  Maybe he will join us on our next adventure to California?

Saturday, May 25, 2013

Swim with Dottie the Dolphin

 Willow has had a dream for a couple of years now.  It came true on Monday! Rowan missed the whole event :)  He was sleeping away.
 Suited up and ready to go!
Into the cold, cold water.
Willow got to train with Dottie, a 30 year old bottle nosed mama dolphin. 
They learned hand signals and commands for Dottie.

Gave her lots of treats and love....

When it was time for Dottie to dance with Willow she did not want to stop!  Willow thought this was hilarious.


She loves animals so very much!

Lots of learning and she was soaking everything in!

Preparing for a big slash!

A kiss goodbye for Dottie!

And a splash goodbye for the trainers!

Seriously? Who would not want that job? How fun!


The smile that lit up the world!

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I am a mom to 5 amazing kids and 2 partners and married to my best friend and love of my life for 28 years now! We co-habitate with 2 cats, Asha and Gustav, 1 dog, Juniper Wren, and 2 Chinchillas, Ozwald and Turbo. We have lived in Salt Lake City for 15 years by way of Tennessee and Oregon. I love to be with my kids, knit, run, craft, sew, paint, travel, hike and play :) I love our crazy life!